How To Stay Motivated When You Aren’t Seeing Results

How To Stay Motivated When You Aren't Seeing Results by Jessica Lauren of NoRealJewelry.Com

Just because you aren’t making progress as fast as you think you should doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress. Keep going.

So true but easier said than done right? Nothing is harder than trying to “keep going” when you aren’t seeing the results you’ve been working so hard for. It’s hard to stay positive when sales go completely dead. When you get rejection letters in your inbox saying that you didn’t get the job. It’s hard to get up and go to the gym when the scale says you gained a few pounds after doing all the right workouts and eating all the right things. Could be muscle gain, but you get the point. šŸ˜œ

So how exactly do you “keep going” when things get stagnant? How do you show up and get the dream work done when all the evidence around you says; “Girl you tried it, but maybe it’s time to give up on [Fill In The Blank Dream]?” I’m no expert but I have made a career out of rejection. Seriously, I was told “No” for 9 years straight before I got a yes and booked my first professional acting gig–you can read all about that here. So I have more than a few tricks up my sleeve that help me stay in the game when things aren’t going quite like I had hoped. Check them out!

Take A Break.

It’s ok to stop when you hit a wall. I repeat; it’s ok to step back, take a break and just be. Be in your feelings. Be in a funk. Be over it. You are allowed to need space even from the very thing you are the most passionate about.

After you’ve been rejected or your big plans don’t pan out the way you imagined–take a minute toĀ fall back. Doesn’t have to be a whole year off or anything like that. Just take care of you for a second.Ā Setbacks suck big time and it’s ok to acknowledge how awful it feels. Feel those feels. And once you feel like you’ve cried all the tears, ate all the ice cream and are ready to kick butt again, go back to the drawing board. Maybe Plan A didn’t work out, well that means it’s time to get your McGeyvor on and move on to Plan B. (If you don’t get that reference you are young AF Lol!) The point is to take a second to recharge and get back in the ring and kick some major ass!

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Get Reacquainted With Your Why.

Why did you start in the first place? Was it get to out of debt? Lose weight? Become financially free from your parents? When you are in the dumps because of a loss, take some time to reconnect with your why. Sometimes we get discouraged because we lose sight of the very reason we started on our journeys. However, if you look back at that vision board, or read excerpts from your journal, you’ll find the push you need to keep going.

Running NRJ gets hard. It’s not all flat lays and natural hair tutorials. It’s hard work. I’m the first one up and the last to bed. I’m writing until I get headaches. I miss birthdays, graduations and baby showers because I am working hard to get to my why.

Now I am the first to admit that a sista needs some balance. And trust me I am working hard to get my family + social life back on track, but the reason I go so hard is because I am always focused on my why.

I can see God’s vision so clearly for myself. I can see that NRJ will become a major platform that helps women overcome their fears and pursue their God given passions full force. I can see myself running NRJ full time and growing it to the point that it creates wealth for myself and my family. I can see it creating employment opportunities for other women so that they too can create wealth for themselves. And that’s why I don’t stop when I don’t get the dream brand partnership, or I don’t get a million readers flocking to the website. I can see so much further than the now because I am focused on my why and that’s what keeps me going when I’m not getting mega results.

Act Like You’re Already Oprah Until You Become Oprah.

About a year ago my best friend Tequila stopped by my apartment at 7 in the morning to pick up something she left the night before. When I opened the door she said; “Girl where in the hell are you going? You’re not working right now”. She was right. I didn’t have to be at work. I had just quit my most consistent gig to pursue NRJ full time. But she was also wrong–I had been up working since 5 am. I was already dressed, my hair was laid and my makeup was beat. I said; “Girl you know I’m running a Fortune 500 Company”. And we just laughed. But I wasn’t playing. Not at all. From day one, I got in the habit of working like I already had the prize.

Seriously, I work as if I’m already making a million dollars and running a mega business. Like I already have speaking engagements. I work like the medal is already in my hands. Having this mindset has helped me detach from losing. I don’t get too tripped up on not landing my dream brand partnerships or having a million followers because I believe it’s just a matter of time before all of that starts to happen. So I just continue to show up, do the work and act like a boss.

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Who can you channel when you’re feeling down about your goals? Beyonce? Oprah? What language can you use when you are one minute away from throwing in the towel? I always say “I’m running a Fortune 500 Company”. What can you be speaking into existence that will get you back on track? I know it sounds a little goofy, could be the actress in me, but give it a try and see how it feels.

The whole point is to not let your setbacks take you out of the game. Do the work even when that’s the last thing you want to do. One day you’ll look up and your unwillingness to quit will be the one thing that got you to your dreams. Keep going.

Did you like this post? Check these out!

The 3 Lessons Rejection Taught MeĀ 

Episode #134 of Being Boss Podcast Rejection + Resilience With Jessica LaurenĀ 

4 Ways To Boost Your Productivity While You Goal ChaseĀ 

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8 thoughts on “How To Stay Motivated When You Aren’t Seeing Results

  1. michelle

    I’m starting my fitness journey and trying to get back in the groove of writing consistently for the umpteenth time and your post gave me all of the motivating feels! I’m so thankful for timely reminders (and tips) to help me keep pushing!

    xo michelle |

    1. Jessica | No Real Jewelry Post author

      Thanks so much Michelle! Getting back into the groove of things can be hard. Especially when you’ve fallen off a couple of times–trust me I know. That’s me with my fitness journey. One day I am game, the next day i’m like “pass me the pizza” lol! The point is to keep going. Fall off upteen times? Get back up upteen times! I’m rooting for you!

  2. Rachel Lang

    “Itā€™s ok to stop when you hit a wall. I repeat; itā€™s ok to step back, take a break and just be. Be in your feelings. Be in a funk. Be over it. You are allowed to need space even from the very thing you are the most passionate about.”

    Ughhhhh thank you! I’ve had a rough week, 2 jobs plus pushing hard for my side hustle had gotten me really down in the dumps! I got over it, but this is such a good post to read tonight. Thank you!


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